Peter asked Jesus, «Lord, how many times must I forgive the offenses of my brother or sister? Seven times?». Jesus answered, «No, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. This story throws light on the kingdom of heaven. A king decided to settle the accounts of his servants. Among the first was one who owed him ten thousand gold ingots. As the man could not repay the debt, the king commanded that he be sold as a slave with his wife, children and all his goods in payment. The official threw himself at the feet of the king and said, ‘Give me time, and I will pay you back everything’. The king took pity on him and not only set him free but even canceled his debt.
»This official then left the king's presence and he met one of his companions who owed him a hundred pieces of silver. He grabbed him by the neck and almost strangled him, shouting, ‘Pay me what you owe!’. His companion threw himself at his feet and asked him, ‘Give me time, and I will pay everything’. The other did not agree, but sent him to prison until he had paid all his debt. His companions saw what happened. They were indignant and so they went and reported everything to their lord. Then the lord summoned his official and said, ‘Wicked servant, I forgave you all that you owed when you begged me to do so. Weren't you bound to have pity on your companion as I had pity on you?’. The lord was now angry, so he handed his servant over to be punished, until he had paid his whole debt». Jesus added, «So will my heavenly Father do with you unless each of you sincerely for-give your brother or sister».
When Jesus had finished this teaching, He left Galilee and arrived at the border of Judea, on the other side of the Jordan River.
Many of us live with very deep hurt feelings. This hurt feelings fail us in every aspect of life, particularly to identify the good things that we have received in our life. This poor man who has received the forgiveness, was so deeply hurt of his personal life, failed himself, by not fully aware of the forgiveness that his master has accorded to him.
It’s quite disgusting when the fault is pointed out, we refuse to budge and remain adamant in our approach, by giving ourselves 1001 excuses, for not forgiving the other. It’s here that this man made a blunder. We all make mistakes, but we should be humble enough to accept our mistakes and take genuine steps to correct ourselves.
This is a great process. It’s quite difficult to forgive others, when our hurts are very deep. To begin with, it’s important that we learn to forgive ourselves and with our perseverance and sincere positive engagement, we will certainly reach the destination. God, who is patience and merciful, gives us the necessary time to get converted. Sometime He does the miracle of life, even without us asking for. But then, if we are not open and ready, even this gratuity will do no charity for us.
«Lord, how many times must I forgive the offenses of my brother or sister?»
Fr. Joan BLADÉ i Piñol
Today, asking «how many times must I forgive the offenses of my brother or sister?» (Mt 18:21), may mean: —These persons I love so much also have their little ways and whims that bother me; day after day, they pester me every five minutes; they do not speak to me... Lord, how long am I supposed to put up with them?
And Jesus answers with the lesson of the patience. Actually, both colleagues coincide when they say: «have patience» (Mt 18:26-29). But, while the intemperance of the wicked one, strangling his companion for a few silver coins, provokes his moral and economic ruin, the king's patience, while saving the debtor, his family and his goods, magnifies the monarch's personality and generates the confidence of his court. The king's reaction in Jesus' words reminds us the Psalm that goes: «But you are willing to forgive, so that you might be honored» (Ps 130:4).
Evidently, we have to oppose to injustice, and energetically, if at all necessary, (otherwise, it would be a sign of apathy or cowardice). But indignation is healthy only when there is no selfishness, nor wrath, nor any nonsense, but our straight desire to fight for the truth. The authentic patience brings us to put up mercifully with contradiction, weakness, inconveniences, unreasonable persons or events. To be patient is tantamount to dominate oneself. S
usceptible or violent persons cannot be patient because they neither take their time reflect about anything nor can they dominate themselves.
Patience is a Christian virtue because is a part of the message from the Kingdom of Heaven, and it is forged on the experience we all have defects. If Paul exhorts us to put on a heart of patience with one another (cf. Col 3:12-13), Peter reminds us that the Lord's patience offers us the chance of salvation (cf. 2Pet 3:15).
For, how many times has God's patience forgiven us in the confessionary? Seven times? Seventy seven times, seven? Maybe more!